Love – a many splendour’d thing but very personal

Love is a very personal thing and is not always full of sweet moments.

Three poets can look at love and even if they are close, with similar backgrounds, each will have had a different experience.

If you lose the love of your life, no matter what the reason, it can be painful but the pain can be greater or lesser depending on whether you lost that love because it was taken from you – which can totally destroy your life leaving it without order or meaning – or if you were careless and let that love slip away.

You can even believe your love remains because you do not know it is lost, or because you see love in everything around you.

The great Liverpool poet Adrian Henri is possibly best known for being one of the trio of poets who became known for The Mersey Sound – no not THAT Mersey sound – poets who depending on the rhythm of their words to provide structure rather than the rhythm of strings and drums.

Henri appeared to be cynical yet in this poem he brings love down to the simple things in life – not caviare and champagne rather fish and chips and warm beer.

Love is …

Love is...

Love is feeling cold in the back of vans

Love is a fanclub with only two fans

Love is walking holding paintstained hands

Love is.

Love is fish and chips on winter nights

Love is blankets full of strange delights

Love is when you don't put out the light

Love is

Love is the presents in Christmas shops
Love is when you're feeling Top of the Pops

Love is what happens when the music stops

Love is

Love is white panties lying all forlorn

Love is pink nightdresses still slightly warm

Love is when you have to leave at dawn

Love is

Love is you and love is me

Love is prison and love is free

Love's what's there when you are away from me

Love is...
Adrian Henri

Henri’s fellow Liverpool poet, Roger McGough has a completely different take on love. In some ways he seems selfish and arrogant, which those who know this former member of Scaffold is not the real McGough.

In this relationship – which to many appears to be on the rocks – the same action is seen in different ways, based on which of the protagonists is interpreting it.

I project my voice

You hear me shout

I have an inquiring mind

You are nosy

This style of “conversation” (really two monologues rather than a dialogue) can involve two or more people, although the more people you have the more likely they will form alliances and still end up as two mindsets.

You and I

I explain quietly. You
hear me shouting. You
try a new tack. I
feel old wounds reopen.

You see both sides. I
see your blinkers. I
am placatory. You
sense a new selfishness.
I am a dove. You
recognize the hawk. You
offer an olive branch. I
feel the thorns.

You bleed. I
see crocodile tears. I
withdraw. You
reel from the impact.
Roger McGough

In the third poem we meet Brian Patten, the third part of The Mersey Sound, who differs from his colleagues in as many ways as he is similar.

This time we can see a love that is ending more through neglect than antipathy. The voice of the poet is that of one who has neglected or ignored a love and only now sees the possible ugliness of a life apart which would be just as ugly now as if they stayed together.

This is recognition of what you have lost only when you have lost it.

You cannot repair that which cannot be repaired.

And Nothing Is Ever As You Want It To Be

You lose your love for her and then
It is her who is lost
And then it is both who are lost
And nothing is as perfect as you want it to be.

In a very ordinary world
A most extraordinary pain mingles with the small routines,
The loss seems huge and yet
Nothing can be pinned down or fully explained.

You are afraid
If you ever found the perfect love
It would scald your hands
Rip the skin from your nerves,
Cause havoc with a computered heart.

You lose your love for her and then it is her who is lost
You tried not to hurt and yet
Everything you touched became a wound
You tried to mend what cannot be mended.

You tried, neither foolish or clumsy,
To rescue what cannot be rescued.

You failed,
And now she is elsewhere
And her night and your night
Are both utterly drained.

How easy it would be
If love could be brought home like a lost kitten
Or gathered in like strawberries,
How lovely it would be
But nothing is ever as you want it to be.
Brian Patten

I have had the privilege of seeing these three great poets in performance not once, but twice. The first was in the early 70s and was a chance to hear the poems I had begun to love in the 60s actually spoken by the poets.

The second time was late in the 90s and the performance was as different as it was the same. The three characters I had seen at the Basildon Arts Centre had the same easy relationship when I saw them 15 years later in Lowestoft.

It was the content that changed, the words were the same as they had always used – just in a different order.

Published by Robin

I'm a retired journalist who still has stories to tell. This seems to be a good place to tell them.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: